The romantic couple or trends

Doomed to love or destined for loneliness

How to read: Please read this diminutive article as if you were talking to a friend in a bar , don’t take it seriously or do, agree with it , not, or use it as inspiration to build your own ideas of our undefinable universe.

Trends, aka tendencies that we all follow , have you ever wondered why do we follow them like headless sheep, is it encrypted in our monkey brain DNA, is it a burden to our individuality , tool or effect of social cohesion?

The definition of a trend in 3 different languages:

English: A prevailing tendency ->a typical or repeated habit, action or belief.

Spanish (tendencia): A persons propension (willingness) to a determinate goal.

French: What is at the “mode” (fashion)

Luckily for us no official definition states any boundaries to what can and cannot be considered a trend. This means there are no boundaries to the BS or in other words ideas that we have on this subject.

Since trends can embark almost everything, I will only talk about romance and couples this time (maybe in the future this could be a series, who knows)

Most of us follow trends without even realising, it makes us feel as if we fit in and most of all makes us feel comfortable of the perils of opinions from others. Some of us follow it more or less, showing sparks of our individuality, others might really adhere to a trend feeling genuinely great with it. This makes me wonder if a trend could also be an effect of the way we live in a certain time.

Could it be that our idealistic search for a “contract”, with the person we are attracted to, willing to reflect feelings, actions, or lives we wish we had. Are we really that lonely, do we really lack reassurance, do we really feel that impotent to living the lives we dream? It’s up to you…

OR, Could our yearn for a partner be a trend or is it something of our nature. Let’s suppose both. That feeling that makes us capable of doing anything knowing that someone’s got our back. Have we gone soft, cause we are born and will die alone, the world we perceive should depend on us as well as the story we build up in our little brain. Do we latch like leaches to others sucking their energy and their life, mistakenly believing it will become part of us? Are we purely genuine? We are a complicated melange or assemblage of all these ideas. Like all in our mysterious world we can’t know fore sure , just as I will never know if I am destined to end up in your lips or doomed to rot alone, like the food you bought some days ago.

Today its fashionable to be a couple, friends and siblings congratulate you, and you are more respected by society. You are saved, immune to the loneliness that will come with time. You will grow old with love, never needing to worry of suffering the feelings of being unliked, unloved or even worse the uncertainty of having someone to have sex with (should have put this one on the top of the list).

This could also be a trend people have created, surely for a very noble reason. Social cohesion, teamwork, empathy, love, and we can go on. It’s a beautiful construct, that surely is vital to us, the way we are raised in (if lucky enough) a loving family, undeniably our greatest quality love and partnership.

I love it,

it is beautiful, romantic, eternal.

Life is not that much,

 even worse its real.

So next time you think of your couple, crush, ex, think of what makes them real and not what the actual romantic trend has established.

Cause in my mind,

 real is eternal, beautiful and romantic.

Be eternal.

Your forever loving Karim.